Possibility

Possibility

If there's one thing I realized that is so powerful about 1% is that it opens up a million possibilities. Chance, luck, possibility, it's all the same. Maybe not, means there's a chance for maybe yes. Whenever we do something that rolls the dice, should we do it or not even if it seems to be completely win-proof, the whole point of doing it is so that you give the opportunity of it happening. It's almost in everywhere. In computer games you stand and fight against something you realise is very powerful compared to your character or army. In sports you run up front to allow your ally to pass to you for a one-touch score at the goal. You appeal for a school. Many a times it is a stupid decision and it feels like a total waste of time and effort. But the ability to give chance is very powerful. It may all be fruitless, but even the concept stays true in the sentence. If it may not, it may be. If it might, it might not. The basis on nothing is impossible refers to both extreme results of a chance in proving that everything you do gives you a possibility of something happening to your interest. It's the same as 4D or toto. If anyone ask why do you do it, even if all fails, it is always because one day something might happen. It's the same with love, with gambling, with taking a career, getting a family and so on. The only problem that can arise from this thing we cannot escape from is how many positive opportunities you open up, and how many negative options you remove from your life. Be nice to people, you increase the chance of a stronger friendship and vice versa. Generically, the rules of life will follow as such. Knowing when to open an opportunity and when not to might not necessarily allow you to gain better chances for you intention, but it does give you the chance. If you look it at some way, 1% is a lot. Most of the time, even the chance to gain the chance to make an opportunity for a chance you desire to occur is very difficult. Like me, I managed to scrap up a dream. You know what's a dream? A dream is a chance that occurs every second, and one day it will happen if you give enough chances. It's like if 5% it will happen, you could go through the 95% of the non-happening events before it happens, or you could not. The thing is, if you don't open your door, no one will walk in. Unless of course, there is the possibility someone breaks it down. That's what door repairmen are for aren't they?

Blame

Blame

That would be something none is free from. Of which is also one of my two only principals I currently live by, but apparently not enough of. Blaming others is possibly the easiest way to escape the harsh reality of the situation one enters. Just throw the burden on someone else and let that person face the music. To take the blame for something you did is a very powerful decision that does change the fate most of the time for the people involved. To take the blame for something you didn't do, that could be the worst or best thing one can do. Blame is always there. When something happens, it happens and whether one tries to do something or not, it will always forever remain there no matter what. The point is, like a life who begins its existence on Earth, who will take it away? Who will end it? Not necessarily should the direct troublemaker be the one to take it. If I could answer that question, everyone should take the blame. Not because sharing it means people will be fairly judged, but because that way, they can realize that none is free from blame. It is not always who causes it, but who that did not manage to prevent it. Because of how the world works, with the amount of network and interaction, anyone can be the cause of a blame, if you are willing to take indirectness to the utmost extreme level. For me, I should always take the blame. It is hard to do so, but it helps to lessen a lot of stress and internal conflicts between me and the people that are in such a case. Take the blame, but let someone else off the hook. It is a chance for that person to repeat the mistake, but hopefully, on the first time you take a burden willingly from someone who has it, maybe that person might change. Who that takes the blame always go either up or down, there's no stay still and nothing happened. The chance to improves is more evident in taking the blame, but there is still a small chance making someone else the scapegoat to improve. But, when someone takes the blame, by how he/she does it, you can truly mark out one of the better characteristics of that person. It's always who want to do it, and thus who take a step forward.

Life

Life

I guess one of the most hardest question to answer yourself is what is my life about? Frankly, it shouldn't be a question to be answered, simply due to that it's one of those things which are almost the same why should I need to live (besides the biological original reason of continuation of a species, which there's no serious reason to actually be true). But if there's something I'd like to share, would be can I call what I'm doing now my life? To say, I can't exactly admit I'm living my life despite the holidays. My life is writing, and all I've been doing is play WoW, of which I realise I may be a tad too addicted to it (latest WoW spree is up to 7.30am in the morning before sleeping) and that does affect my life. For me, life is about doing something significant enough that I learn something or gain something at this point of the day so that in the near future I have a new set of skills or talents to show that with the passing hours I have done something to not necessarily improve my life but to change my life. Being stuck in the past is a boring thing, and same as being stuck at Lv20, or only know how to do one kind of sliding trick, is definitely boring. The drive of my life is not to be boring. Monotonous isn't something I'd like to stick with, and I'd like to eventually one day say "Hey, I can finally do this!" (which has been proven by being able to play What I've Done though it's still under construction). It is not a question what do I wish to get out of my life, but rather do I want to move on or stay still? The whole big Truth the world seeks isn't real, and nothing we can do can justify why anything really works that way. Such as the infinite strings of "why?" one can stick on to anything one can think off. Why does anything exist? That would be one of them. But if we keep thinking of worldly situations, maybe one day some alien will come down and tell us, but for now, my life is all about taking one step forward. Trust me, one step forward is the most difficult task anyone can do. There are the runners, there are the crippled, but still to be able to prove the fact that today is different from tomorrow is very very difficult. Time flows as normal, but it is how we use it that makes our life flow along with it. Basically, is each day the same as yesterday? If it were I'd wonder what so interesting about living.

Addiction

Addiction

I suppose this is something everyone is guilty/proud of. Even I have issues with this term, although I suppose when I deal with it the end result is of towards more of a general good product than losing to it. Basically, addiction is just overuse of anything. Skating too much, reading too much, gaming too much, eating too much, studying too much whatever that comes into mind. One of the scariest thing about these kind of psychological issues is that many a times, because it is more of a mental issue rather than a materialistic one, it is very hard to grasp the concept that thyself is addicted to whatever. The hours spent on it increases, negligence on other possibly more important priorities decreases and depending on the type of materialistic or mental matter that one is addicted to, most of the time oneself social life would also be degraded. Addiction covers everything, and this will stand true. Even if debating about addicted to breathing, it can come in many forms. Intoxication of chemicals, smoking, sniffing of substances and so on. Everything can be addicted to. I suppose getting addicted is easy, be it a chemical, psychological or a forced reaction to equate into this state. Addiction mostly is a negative effect, based on the principal that too much of anything will become a problem now or later in the future. But sometimes addiction has their advantages. Because some addictions are easier to get off than others, one use of addiction that I have never quite seen first-hand is to jump from one addiction to another till it reaches one that can be resolved easily. Such as a chain smoker to an alcohol drinker. Both are bad, but so is everything. The concept is to change addiction to something maintainable, using the psychological effect of addiction to ween off the previous one. Also, it could prove as motivation, same as many workshops provided by the school to psycho students into hardcore studying. The result might not show the fruits of the done labour, but it induces a chance that the person addicted to a "supposedly" good thing might emerge with something worthwhile. It is a totally different thing from interest or hobby, both of which are controllable, but addiction is not. Proving one is not addicted is often difficult, where pleasure usually overrides the decision to point out that one is addicted to a certain thing. It may not be a every single minute addiction, but addiction would mean that the density of usage increases as time goes on, to a point where it becomes a destructive matter. It is possible to be addicted and then not to a certain thing without ever being conscious of it, as it is possible to be addicted and not able to do anything about it. Basically, the degree and the existence of any addiction highly depends on a person. The ability to psychologically manage it, the attitude to detect and be aware of it, whether it is maturing or aggressively manifesting, deteremines the level of addiction to anything in a person's life. Because it covers so many angles in the world, it is hard to lay anything down on this addiction matter, because it is too diverse. The possibly only thing that I can truly know about it is that it is always up to you to decide if you got an addiction or not and whether you should ween of it. Proving an addiction is hard. Resisting an addiction is never because you can't, but rather that at whenever instance, you can do it, but you choose not to do it. It's always a free will thing.

Can you?

Can you?

I've been wondering about the schematics of saying "can you help me?" and I realize that within this phrase lies a very powerful psychological force. Well, the power depends on the distance between the asker and the asked, the location, the situation, as well as the relationship between each, as well as the individual character of each, but still, the whole saying of that brings about a set of options that is always, or nearly, becomes a single option instead of a few. For starters, the most common would probably be simply labor-related work, such as bringing something over to somewhere. When the whole "can you help me?" phrase comes into play, usually, the answer will be yes, verbally or mentally said. In a general situation where there's no slightly weird factor which makes what I'm saying later irrelevant to any point, it becomes an obligation to do whatever that has been requested. It is an option to say no, or later, or let-me-think-about-it, or any other answer that one can think off, but like a diplomatic answer, it is usually towards yes for relationship purposes, most of the time subconsciously having the purpose in mind, instead of actively seeking to strengthen, I can't see how it is to weaken or neutralize, the relationship. It is not a compulsory move to make, to agree, nor is it a bad choice to say yes. But, no matter what the cause is, the psychological impact on the asked is greatly seen, because most subjects will say yes, if given the question, for example, to a scenario involving being asked to borrow his/her phone for a simple call. Many a times, no thought is given about it when being asked, and thus, this simple question therefore can be said to force the characteristics of the question into being, coerced and subjected into doing something which most of the time, isn't beneficial in anyway, with the exception that completing the request given shows that one isn't a selfish human. The aspects that make up the power of the psychological influence are many, but first off, distance between each other. Normally, the further the distance is, the lesser the impact of the psychology behind the question. When distance, it's relative more to visual distance. For example, over the phone, from one end of Singapore to the other, maybe the person won't comply. If it is face to face, most probably the asked will do the request. If shouting from one end of the school block to the other, forgetting the request is also possible. But the best chances are always face to face. Also, the distance of the request comes into consideration. If it is to accompany a friend, "can you accompany me to do my job interview?", which is in the nearby shopping mall, possibly it will be done. But, if it is to fetch some person from the (again) other side of Singapore because that person is lost "I lost my way, can you pick me up?" Most probably no. Chances of saying yes are further examined when I reach the part about relationship between asker and asked. The location isn't that a factor, but for example, if it was the asker's house, or the asked house, the chances of complying will definitely go up, because it becomes a mutual relationship between the host and the guest, where one is in the other's territory, and respect will come into play to preserve the relationship. Haven't gotten much thought into that yet, so my opinions on it will be unsure. But if the location is where weather affects much of an individual, and the request has something to deal with the elements themselves, possibly the rates of complying might go up. But most of the time, comfort doesn't apply when being asked the question, where keeping the friendship becomes more of a top priority. The situation closely follows the location factor, but they are not necessarily the same. A location can always bring about different sets of scenarios. But in most situation, it is to the asker's benefit, but nor is it greatly to the asked disadvantage. There may not be a significant benefit that is noticeable, but nor will there be a significant disadvantage. That said, most situation will revolve around this principal. Of course, sometimes when the request requires expenditure of some sort that is non-renewable without re-expending energy, then the chances of saying yes will greatly be affected. When referring to renewable expenditure, it might mean physical strength most of the time, but sometimes just a bit of brain power, in the context of saying "can you give your opinion on this?" For example, if asked by a stranger "can you lend me some money? Lost my wallet." Such an excuse might be true, but wary ones will tend to say no. The psychology is still there, but in a different form. Since the situation now that arises tends not to two people who have at least a tangible relationship, but to two people who simply happen to meet, the psychology inflicting the asked will be more to sympathy, or good will, both which are just a line apart in difference. The situation doesn't always need to be calculated in determining the chances of agreeing or not, but in special situations such as above, most likely the option picked will be no. The relationship between each is pretty much common sense. If it was a request from mother to son, or within a blood tie, it is nearly always a yes on a general basis, if internal conflicts and specific treatment to certain characters in a family is not taken into account. Also, between friend to friend, it will nearly always be a yes, in fact always a yes, if it was a face to face. The minor hurt given to the counterpart when saying no is possibly what I feel the reason that allows for yes to be an obligated, but yet in some sense a compulsory, move to be taken. Of course, possibly the most influential would be the individual him/herself. If it was one who abuse this phrase, obviously with repeated asking it would be no. If it was one who most of the time is shy and outspoken, possibly it is an extremely high rate, but leaving exceptions out it would be 100% yes. Also, gender counts. For a girl to a guy, depending on what the guy thinks of the girl, if the girl ask, definitely the request would be completed. Same goes for vice versa. This may not be the case, but it will prove that the entire human blueprints and grown traits will be taken into account subconsciously by the asked to judge whether saying yes would be a good answer. Most of the time, it would be yes. Also, the person matters. Not just the gender, but depending on the social ranking, the higher, typically the rate would go up. If a policeman asked for directions (if, I said if), hen definitely there would be some sort of answer given, most of the time in an indirect form of saying yes. Many other factors will follow in this simple question, but it is not much different. The only thing that is so powerful about this question that it is a simple phrase anyone can use, or abuse, to not only it's psychological conning extent but also to induce scenarios otherwise not possible, such as getting to know someone better, of which otherwise might only just be an one-time-only meeting. Also, the psychology underlying it pulls the asked mind towards the desired task easily, because not that it is hard to say no, or that no is not an option, but most of the time, it is to show respect and to show that hey, I too am not selfish and only bother about myself. Such in-depth beneficiaries are not thought on the spot, but most of the time as a subconscious effort, in the same medium as how psychology carries out its effects. The thing is, basically, "can you..." questions subjugate one to do something that consume time and energy accomplishing something that may not be beneficial in any sense at all in the long or short run with the exception of solely for that instance you are not a selfish person (but just someone who might be conned, depending on the cunningness of the asker). Theoretically speaking, it isn't wise to judge should I or should I not, but just do it, to prove that at that instance you are a friend, and with repeated request, you really are. But of course, cramming all scenarios with one simplistic or complicated rule or set of rule will ensure that you will be abused as a asked one day, or a week, or many months, or your lifetime. Each scenario has its own rules, consider, and judge only if the scenario sounds fishy. (Like if I ask, "can you comment?")(That was a minor jest, but consider fishy requests that include non-renewable energy.)

Attention

Attention

There was this set period of time I spent into thinking what could be the root of all problems, and I realised that an insanely, large amount of them, or possibly all (i'm still determining whether it's all or nearly all, but classifying them into nearly all to leave out exceptional cases.) of problems incurred in daily life is based on one single desire. Attention. Problems starts with doing something or doing nothing. Doing something means it started with you. Doing nothing means it started with someone, but spilt over to you. When I mean doing something, it could be anything done at any time; it's just that the case was brought up today. Doing nothing doesn't entirely apply. It could be you went to this school, and someone didn't like your face, or you happen to be there when the gangsters started picking a fight, or even simply because the DotA game you played you got a lousy hero and lost the game due to it being a -ar game. Whether it is your fault or not, it is a different case. But, all problems will initiate from attention. I suppose it's the psychology of this desire attention that makes it so powerful enough that people base their problems, unintentionally or not, on it. For example, most people have the common problem felt by virtually anyone. Relationship problems. Be it friendship, love or kinship, it's always the same. People want to be recognised, want to be admired honoured or appreciated, it's the same. People want other people to acknowledge their existence. It's a natural thing that most of the time is subconsciously done. Why would anyone get a boyfriend/girlfriend? Usually it's the feeling of having a personal someone, and you will gain attention from that special him/her, or from the people who realise that this guy finally got one. A boyfriend/girlfriend will attend to you in a way normal friends without this stage of relationship won't. They divert time, money and energy just for you, if we are not talking about double-timing and things like that. Basically speaking, they devote themselves to you, and this devotion is a form of attention. If they didn't give you attention, you would be ignored, and I don't suppose many people want such a type of relationship just to be ignored. Well, different people different views, opinions and preferences, but it is mostly like that. Even with friends, which I mostly covered in my first post, people want to be them because society think of them as "cool" people, or basically people with not much worth except in the materialistic place where seeing is believing and you don't have to go through the whole character analysis thing to make a person "cool". People always want to be acknowledged, and this will make them go for friends that will, simply because it's one of the better shortcuts. Even with problems dealing with studying, possibly the second most common problems, but mostly dealing with adolescents and the population in an educational institute, the point of attention being the root of the problem exist. Why would anyone do well? There are a rare few who actually think of the distant future and mapped out their journey in life already. For the most, it's basically to see who's the most intellectual, to get into the best course, or please one's parents. It's possibly a small minority that I'm talking about, but seriously, who already decided on what to become in the future? Those people are cleanly left out in this section. Being the most intellectual or smart is one of the ways to be outstanding, and this outstanding means people will take notice of you, and this noticing is a form of attention; for a few out there. But while it may not actually be true, and may not even be true, it is still a fact that people do things for attention, for a majority of their lives, and most of the time it is a subconscious act, and many people will fail to recognise that their attention seeking conscious will kill them. But to say, attention revolves largely around the society's upbringing and most of the problems with attention as the root of it originates from the society one is in.

What is attention, and why do people need it? Indepth, I can't answer it yet. But if anyone ever figures out how to live without attention at any single direct or indirect cause, then they solved one of the world's many questions of the great Truth. The one that people just make up to sound cool.

Friends

Friends

Friends, properly defined, possibly can be labelled as simply people that are not blood-related in any direct way whom we know that are usually of our age group. That simply defines what a person needs to be to be a friend, but more importantly, to what degree can a person be as a friend? Friends come in many different and various forms of different classes, be it heritage, physical traits or environment. But when addressing friends, it is never a general term. People always have a hierarchy for friends. How they label it may differ, such as good friends, close friends, nice friends, bad friends, just-know-them-by-chance friends or whatever but for listing purposes, they possibly can be classed into the true friends, artificial friends and simply friends. True friends are people that help you out of a stitch, that are there if you got problems if you're stuck in, while possibly certain will only tend to specific problems, but they still will. They will be there thick and thin, and will know after awhile you for yourself. Those that are artificial are those that hang around you, at first help you when you got a problem, but otherwise if nothing else, try to avoid being allowed to have you as a burden, which is basically just not letting you enter their lives and make it troublesome by allowing your problems to go over to their paths. And after something serious breaks out, they don't seem to be there anymore. Simply, they go with you because by the way the society is built, being with you is deemed worthy, while it usually does not hold true. It's more of having you for the positive effects of having you, but the moment a negative scenario pops in they want to have nothing to deal with you. Simply friends are in fact the minority. Most of our lives comprise of artificial friends, with simply friends filling in the next level and true friends being the rarest. Different people have different luck with people they meet, so they may not follow what that has been said so far. But on a normal context, this will stand true. How can anyone be defined as a true friend? True friends don't arise from being together for years and years, which sadly is a very extremely sad realization to make, nor are they born from an insane amount of coincidences which bring the two together, such as being in the same camp, school or class. They are brought into existence by knowing, and then when something happens, they show their worth, and as time goes on, their worths grows. They continue happening, and this, is what will define a true friend. Someone that can prove their worth to you over primarily by getting you through obstacles many times. Time does not ensure a true friend. Time only ensures that eventually the rotten ones will show their true color. Artificial friends are easy to pick out. They are there when they can make it, but not always there when you can make it. The relationship between you and them will revolve mainly around them, not between the both. But even true friends are mostly artificial friends, just waiting to evolve. People eventually will change, and it is this factor which corrupts the friendship easily. People will want newer friends, which will become short-term true friends, and then newer ones later on. People always want what the society deems worthy, and sometimes, when a person starts bringing negative situations into their lives, they simply break off and find other friends because it is easier. To be able to 100% rely on a friend, is nearly impossible. Time is always present, and the chance for a true friend to break is always there. There is perhaps, no one person who has never been for a single moment an artificial friend, but of course, sometimes true friends mean being an artificial one, then turning back. People will change, and sometimes forced to, but if it is really a true friend, the relationship will never, even if the person himself/herself does. To say, friends are always random, since they do not depend on you to be who they are initially, thus they can never be fully trusted, for humans are the ones with the intellect to be distracted and diverged from what they used to be. People always change, and this sometimes don't categorize them into friends. In fact, for me, friends are always short-term. None has proven possible to even be a true friend for long-term, while many has done so for short-term. It is always a fault that happens somewhere, and a point in time where either cannot give way, and this matter eventually repeats, and this is where something snaps.To maintain good friendship, it is always matters on two things. The density of the presence with the other, and the ability to be beneficial to each other. Other than that, it'd be things I have yet to experience or remember to write it here.

Do I have simply friends? Yes. Do I have true friends? Half a yes. Do I have artificial friends? Yes. Do I have a lot of people to make my friends? Not really. Do a lot of people become my true friends? No. Why? I don't have problems for them to help me through and show me that they are worth something more than the rest to be classified as something of a respectful rank in my multi-tiered hierarchy. I'm hopeless, and so far it's good.