Advice

Advice

I did develop a method/technique to coach on how advising should be. The psychological influences that plays along with it, how it mainly works and how what a simple cause will bring about any possibility of effect ranging from drastic to nothing. I did a theoretical explanation and a brief account on the character, attitude, scenario or situation, feelings and relationship level to determine the possible average degree of influence and ability to sway a person's decision and options.

Up to where does an advice not become an advice? Exactly where is that fine line that determines what that a person say isn't a total psychological grip to forcefully maneuver? The ability to advice isn't as damn simple as you think it is. Underlying meanings and hidden speeches. Suggestive reinforcements and manipulative realignments. An advice should be something that allows for the hearer to keep his own judgment, but as well as thinking strongly about the advisor's.

To be able to play an advice to the point where it is subtle enough to convince easily, but as well as to give the hearer a chance for a second or third thought, isn't simply just spitting out what's on your mind. Most stuff didn't go anywhere by simply just going. To think is not just a simple matter of neurons and neurontransmitter. It isn't close to imagining or perceiving what you're doing, or going to do.

To think about what you're actually going to say is exceedingly different from just saying what's on your mind. To be frank is something that's gonna hurt, and it is more than just emotional hurt if it goes wrong. The consequence can drag anyone through the mud, to the core, to hell and back.

Advising means the ability to give, yet allow for the person to choose to receive the gift. The ability to place the user in such a difficult position yet simple one in which either choice is ok, acceptable and manageable, with dire consequences and potential benefits of their own.

To give a one-sided argument or debate, a story biasedly fixated on one side, is not what an adviser should do. It not only hinders the current mindset and logical thinking on the correct path to take, but it might also dampen the ability to correctly think in a way that is definitely on the average better on the long-run.

I don't spit all these stuff out at random. I should know what I am talking about. Advising, you wouldn't give a damn when you're doing it, how you're doing it, and how badly you're screwing up the other person's life. Amateurs should stick out of the way. That's what I did, until I sat down and started formulating theories. They may not work, but I'm the closest there is.